The mission comes first...

There are times at night, well just about every night, my mind can not seem to shut off. I have so many thoughts, projects, and interests going on because they all lead to one important objective, completing the over mission.  I've been told I need to slow down , take a break, or perhaps cut somethings back, but if I do that my overall mission could be compromised and that is something I can live with. I have to say that I have indeed sacrificed a lot in every aspect of my life, but it is for a purpose, and isn't that why man lives, for a purpose?  I would like for one day to sit back and truly enjoy life, but today is not that day, the mission comes first. I say this rant to merely state that one must remain focused in order to achieve, endure in order to finish and succeed, and evolve in order to reach a higher understanding.

Time for change. Time for leaps of faith....

As I get older I realize that I must embrace change, because whether I want to accept it or not, it is going to happen. I know that in my current way of life I need to evolve more and move on from my current station in life.  Sometimes one has to take a leap of faith and at those times you may reap the rewards or consequences of those choices from either taking a leap or refusing.  My life, just like everyone else's life, is full a schedules and chaos, without an end in current sight, even though it may be around the corner. I have come to realize that life is not going to be truly fair, but you still have to carry on and push through as best you can.   I was talking to someone a few days back, I could tell this individual was weary, hardened, and shape by life, or rather the choices made in their life.  This individual kept stating they should have did this or should have done that, all the while I am thinking why did this person just go and do the things they were speaking of?   I know it is easier said than done, but if one can do the negative things in life with such ease, why not reverse those behaviors and use them In the positive aspects of life? If one truly wants change to happen , they must shed fears and just go for it, what is the worst that can happen? You fail? You go back to the position in life you are currently at? I would say that is an acceptable risk I would gladly take! My dad used to say that you were already born at the bottom, you have no choice to move to the top of you so choose to.

Your Vision, your goals, your own road.

As I get older, and wiser, I have come to the realization my vision is just that, my vision. At the end of the day no one truly cares why you set out to do the things you have outlined for yourself. I do not have the luxury of having a whole bunch of friends or ones I would consider die hard, nor do I really care for that matter, people,  as I am told , come into your life for a season and then each party  will move on with their respective lives and etc. With that being said one should always remember to take people's lack of understanding as a standard norm and continue on. I have had to remove several people from my life due to creating stressful situations or formulating how we should be in some crazy equation that never will include each individual's vision or goals, so to that I say formula rejected. I have no problem living within my own made up world if it will help me reach the goals I have set up for myself, we as individuals give up to much of ourselves at certain times in our lives and when given a second chance to correct those mistakes we shouldn't squander the opportunity to get whatever goals wanted to have accomplished long ago. So to those out their in the same situation I say, if you have to get rid of people or leave them behind in order to make progressive changes then by all means do so, chances are they may have never had your back to begin with or understand what your trying to accomplish,  which is ok.

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Watching One's Back: Lessons Learn.

I was brought up and trained back in a time where you were to have your colleagues back and In return they should or would have your back.  But we now live in a reality that has proven this is not the standard norm for being a unit anymore, instead people would rather smile in your face and then stab you in the back if they feel threaten or  have jealous underpinnings.  The phrase that has been said so many times still sadly holds true today; keep your friends close, but your enemies even closer, but with that being said who can say is truly your friend or who is truly your enemy in our current societal make up. Of course people will talk a great game in your face just so there will not be any harsh feelings or a odd work environment, but why is it that people can not be honest with each other anymore? Why can't people explain to one another what needs to be done in order to make the unit a more effective one? Life is only as easy as an individual can make it, and with every other outside factor coming at us a whole why add to such a trying process?  Don't get me wrong, I am not saying to defend someone who is in the wrong or has a negative disposition that only brings down the group, people like that are toxic in nature and should not be apart of anything productive until their attitude changes.  But if you are a true person for change and doing things correctly, then instead of going behind someone's back and making statements or suggestions to hurt that person, take a more classy route and actually talk to that person on the side and help them grow, would you not want to be afforded the same courtesy? Now the question I send out into the world of cyberspace is how can we, in any situation, work as a functioning unit and give feedback or constructive criticism in order to meet the end goal as a team?

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Connections and Relationships

I may be a twin, but I am a loner, always have been, I feel most comfortable alone and in my own thoughts, and relationships elude me, I guess one can say I have lost my way in that aspect of my life of suffer from alexithymia.  But at the end of the day i come to realize we all need someone to talk to and to bond with on some level, a connection we can call our own. It is said we all need affection and in return need to be affectionate. I understand this but then in aspects I do not, in my own opinion I feel like a stable adjusted person who has their own unique take on love and relationships,  as do any person, that is why all relationships have there own unique take and hold their own unique value per individual or couple.  I have time and time again that no man can be an island unto himself and I challenge back why not?

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Fatherhood: The Gift/The Responsibility

It is 4:22pm, on November 23, 2014, I am patiently waiting at the airport for my son to land and check in so our week long bonding time can being. I have been excited for this opportunity since I began planning for it a couple of months ago, all of the headache and issues with getting him here up until this point has been well worth it.  Whether some of us want to admit it or not, fatherhood is the greatest gift one could receive in life! Just think about it, you get to see apart of you grow up and teach that part of you lessons you learned growing up in some small way you get to have a second chance at life.  They get to see life through your eyes and you get to do the same, it is your legacy, why would you not want to make sure it is secure, safe, successful.  With the gift of fatherhood,  you also must cognizant of the responsibility that comes with it. Help to lead the way for a better outcome or more advance outcome than your current situation,  I could never understand or would want to for that matter how can a man have a seed in this world and not take measures to ensure that their seed is successful! I am not saying that if your seed makes conscious mistakes you should be held accountable if they are of adult age, I am only stating that as men we have to make sure we make the proper provisions as to help make sure they do not stray and look at other avenues as the direction to head.

I can say, without any doubt, I love my son, with every fiber that God has placed in my mortal form, I would give my life for his, as my father would do the same for me, this is what the cycle of a legacy,  a positive legacy entails.  I was told, by what I considered to be a wise sage on the street who was homeless, that one day it will make sense.  As a kid I wondered what that meant or if the homeless guy was a bit crazy, but as I get older I can see what he was trying to convey to my young mind,  and with that small amount of wisdom, I will impart it to my son, thus pushing on the cycle, that is my gift to my responsibility.

The Measuring of A Man

       Sidney Poitier said it best in two quotes from his book, The Measure of a Man: Spiritual Autobiography, "A person doesn't have to change who he is to become better," and, "I am the me I choose to be." These two quotes have stood out for me because it sums up how a man should handle and carry himself.  An individual, especially a man, has to understand that they are who they want to be and a man should want to be the provider, the protector, the leader, and foundation of their world they have made for themselves.  A man has to know who they are before they bring others into the world they have made.  I never could understand how a man, who has decided to make the wrong choices, consistently, would want to bring others into that world chaos and instability. Life can not be treated as a game or something that you figure out later on when you get to an age you feel is one of maturity, a man should with guidance and help from other positive men, should have a plan of action and a plan for success as early as a teenager.  I am also not saying that success breeds the perfect man, that is not a reality, even though that man may have a successful career or make a lot of money, that still does not make him a man, it all falls in line with that man's actions. A man, a real man, has to use several areas of understanding, from wisdom (good wisdom) to humility to compassion in order to make judgement possible in every situation placed before them.

       I can only speak for myself, I am a man that wants to be measured on my actions in life not my accomplishments or amount of money I have in my account, it doesn't make me who I am, that only gives me a standing or position in the eyes of others in life and at the end of the day that doesn't make for a productive, purposeful life, knowing who God is and who you are or could be as a real man is truly the key.  I have witnessed so many men take the path of least resistance because life was "hard," but life will always have challenges, finding and figuring out how to properly manage and handle these challenges is the key to overcoming.  If your a man who is reading this I make this challenge to you, become more than what you are currently, do things that advance you overall and never become complacent because things seem stable, let your measure  as a man be one that is thought of in high regard.

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